A men's guide to buying lingerie for your lady
Most men don't know anything about choosing lingerie, which is understandable because it can get confusing. What kind of lingerie to buy, what size, what color? How can a man know? Here's a little guide to help you choose lingerie for that special someone.
There are a few things to consider before heading out. What do you like? Remember that you will not use this, she will and you should go out with the intention of getting something that she likes. If you don't like tiny, see-through lace stuffed animals, chances are that if you buy them, you won't be in a good mood to wear them and you may never see them. So keep in mind what he likes.
If you don't know, check your nightdress / lingerie drawer before you go. Check the type of material (cotton, silk, etc.), the colors and, most importantly, the size. She may be flattered if she wears a large one and you buy her a small one, but if she wears a small one and you buy her a large one, you may be in trouble. Avoid anything that says "control" on the label. Those items are used to firm and flatten the tummy and buttocks and you probably wouldn't appreciate receiving them as a gift.
Another thing to remember is that if the store offers to wrap your underwear, drop it. Delicate lingerie will look better in its packaging than if it is wrapped in paper left over from your cousin's birthday. Presentation is part of the lingerie package. Also, if you feel uncomfortable in the store, check out online stores that sell lingerie. You can always start at Victoria's Secret, but most department stores like Macys and Nordstroms sell lingerie, too. Final note: Remember to save your receipt in case it is the wrong style, size or color.
Now, what kind of lingerie is available? Almost anything you can think of! Ask yourself what the occasion is. Is this to let her know that you love her? If so, something crotchless or see-through probably won't send that message. But if it's for Valentine's Day or your anniversary, maybe something a little more daring is welcome. Bras on their own come in many different styles including push up, plunge, gel padded, padded, underwire, seamless, backless, strapless, open cup, and no padding.
If you are going to buy a bra and panties set, always check what you have in your drawer beforehand and definitely make a note of the size, both of the bra and the panties. Most places sell at least one pair of panties that match each bra, but some sell several so you can match them. It will also be helpful to know what type of panties she likes to wear: high-cut thongs, briefs, or bikini.
When it comes to sleepwear, it can be just as confusing. One type of nightwear is babydoll pajamas. They usually have very thin straps, a deep V-neckline and are very short with matching panties. You will find most of these made of silk or satin, materials that always make a woman feel good about herself. But, if you feel like your breasts are too big or too small, or you think your stomach is too big, you may want to avoid babydoll pajamas.
There are slips and shirts. Like babydoll pajamas, these are a bit longer and a bit better at hiding problem areas like the breasts, butt, or stomach. They are also usually made of silk or satin.
The dresses are full versions of the babydoll. Many are see-through or lace and can help put your woman in the mood. Babydolls, briefs, nightgowns, and robes can also come with a robe.
Pajamas may not sound too sexy, but if it is silky and has buttons down the front, it can make your woman feel very sexy, especially if she is a plus size (size 18 or larger). Boxers have become very popular lately. The tops are tight-fitting, with spaghetti straps and generally a V-neckline, although there are sets of boxers with regular tops.
If you're really looking for lingerie to spice up your love life, check out Frederick's of Hollywood (available online). They have been selling sexy lingerie for over 50 years. They have a wide variety of garters, bustiers, corsets, teddies (similar to babydolls, but in one piece), crotchless panties, and fishnet stockings - items that may not be available in many stores that sell lingerie.
The type of lingerie that you should give to your love depends a lot on your self-esteem. Many older women love sexy teddy bears, but some will shy away from them for fear of exposing themselves too much. Most stores sell lingerie in plus sizes, which are a little less revealing. If she is really athletic, a boxer might be something she would like. The M Slender women will look good in anything, but especially teddies, corsets, and babydolls.
When shopping for lingerie, try to consider what you like. If you buy something similar to the lingerie she already has and in colors that you know she likes, it will probably make her happy. But keep the receipt just in case!
