After childbearing .. 5 basic things that change in marriage
No one denies that childbearing is the greatest blessing of life, but we also do not deny that it changes the relationship between spouses and leaves a clear influence on it, so the nature of life and the interests and priorities of the spouses change.
After childbearing, some of the things that used to happen between the spouses change and take a different form, the most important of these things:
1. Dialogue and debate.
At the beginning of the marriage stage, the spouses share in making even simple decisions, such as choosing where to spend the summer vacation, Mother's Day gift or changing the car, and even if one of them is not convinced of the matter, the other tries to please him and talk to him until the appropriate decision is reached.
As for after childbearing and the passage of many years, the spouses lose the ability to debate and disagree on most matters, even the simplest ones, for example planning to spend the weekend becomes a difficult matter that they never agree on, he wants something and she wants something else, and the children want something else.
2. Entertainment times.
Spouses always start their lives and each of them seeks to please the other party, and makes a great effort to make him happy, but after childbearing things change, as entertainment times are spent attending the birthdays of children's friends, or implementing a school activity for children, or watching a cartoon movie With them.
3. Communicate and talk.
At the beginning of the marriage, the spouses enjoy talking to each other about everything and discussing many matters, from political discussions to commenting on the latest songs, and they discuss work and home problems as well, but after childbearing, it may reach a lack of dialogue that may amount to marital silence. , Except from some hadiths about the requirements of the children and the house, or the wife's complaint to the husband about their son not studying well, or the husband’s expression angrily about his lack of awareness of the cleanliness of the house ... and so on.
4. Romantic moments.
One of the most important factors for the continuation of marriage is preserving the romance of the relationship between the spouses, and at the beginning of marriage, romance is at its peak, as they prefer to spend time together in a romantic dinner in a restaurant, or stay up all night by candlelight.
But after childbearing and with the passage of years, intertwining the hands for a moment when watching a movie is a big event, and that is definitely before a child cries out for his desire to go to the bathroom or to fall.
5. Love.
The concept of love before childbearing changes from after it. Love takes another form or a new path. In the past, the wife loved her husband, but now she loves the father of her children, who shares with her in this great adventure called "parenting".
