Boring after school activities
Why does Lisa complain when it's time to go to her piano lessons?
How come Johnny hates the sight of her skates now? After all, these
the children were very excited about the programs when they started.
What happened? Parents are often confused by the disturbing and often
incongruous signals they receive from their children. One day the children are
excited about the new drama class and in just a few weeks
moan and moan when it's time to go.
The first thing a family should do when a child begins to resist
The activity that I once loved is listening and investigating. Don't get into
conclusions. It takes a bit of smart research. You ask
child what he does in class. Find out what exactly is the cause
of the problem. Then ask the teachers the same questions. Compare notes.
You may stumble upon some important clues. Children usually start with
activity thinking that everything is fun. But when they realize that they can't
they just hang out and need to follow rules etc, they start to
to resist. Your child may feel stifled if the program is too structured. Yes
the discipline is too rigorous or the activity too painful (such as karate
class) some children resist. Use your own instincts. Does the program feel
how fun? Do you want to attend yourself? Are they offering enough?
motivation to keep the child interested?
The teacher-to-child ratio is also an important factor. Children need
Attention. If the number of teachers is enough to handle a class,
Your child may not be getting enough attention. State
Recommendations usually specify that there should be 1 teacher for every 15
Children try to avoid problems they cannot solve. If there is not
noticeable problems with the class and teachers, you may need
chat with your child. If your judgment says the place is good
and the activity is engaging enough, then it's time to work with your child.
Most of the time, social pressures can be at play here. Your son
do you have friends there? If she feels lonely or miserable because of the lack of
friends, help her find a friend. If you find a friend, you will get more
involved in activities
If your best efforts don't pay off and your child still resists
fantastic guitar lessons then it's time to let it go. Change your child to
some other program. If you still have an interest in guitars,
you can take it back after a few months. Never force the child, especially when
it's all about extracurricular activities. As they are 'extra', they must
bring extra happiness and excitement too.